“Remember, a real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” ~ Anthony Robbin
“Faith without works” is a very familiar phrase used in recovery circles. It implies that we have to take an action that may be contrary to our internal belief system. Without a doubt, in my counseling practice, the greatest challenge is to get people out of their comfort zone and take the actions that are required to achieve the goals they have set. Most people believe that they can’t do it or they don’t have the ability to do it. The fact is they have trained their minds to believe that change is not good. In fact, our very own minds make sure that we stay with the tried and true because our brain’s function is to keep us safe. This process of the mind, as you are probably learning by now from our Mind Peace Mastery website and blogs, is all done by the subconscious mind. We have picked up or even been told that change is not good. Maybe you have always taken the safe path because that is what people do. Your desires or ambitions have been stifled by your responsibilities. Your independence has been branded as “rebellious.” You have been conditioned by your environment to play it safe, but there still remains that deep yearning to break free from the chains of conformity and fear.“What will people think of me if I break free?” “Will people still like me?” And the biggest rock that keeps people weighed down, “What would happen if I failed?”All of these negative thoughts keep us safe in our own personal prison. Only we have the key, and the key is willingness to change or, if you prefer, true desire.Life truly begins at the edge of your comfort zone. The more times you push your comfort zone, the stronger your desire muscle gets, until one day you break free from the chains of self doubt, limiting beliefs, and destructive habits. That term “destructive habits” is a big part of turning your life around. It all starts with creating new productive habits. Remember the old saying, “Rome was not built in a day.” Well, it is true. But you will be amazed what you can do in 28 days.
Here are three sure ways to start the rebuilding process of your new life.
1. Create a specific goal.
“Sure,” I hear you say. “I have no clue about what I want to do.” Therein lies the problem. If you aim at nothing, you hit it every time. So start small. Remember, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase” (Martin Luther King, Jr.).I ask all of my clients this simple question if they are stuck at this point: What do you spend your time daydreaming about? This simple exercise can give you some great insight about what you want for your life.
If you don’t plan, plan to fail. Once you have decided on a goal, take a realistic look at your goal. If you are planning on retiring and traveling the world, you are going to ask yourself some questions. At this point, always remember in every facet of your life this golden rule applies. The better the questions you ask, the better the answers you will get. “How many years will it be until I retire?” “What parts of the world would I like to travel to?” “How long will I be traveling?” You get the picture? So ask yourself some really good questions, and chances are you will get some really good answers.
3. Be Prepared
How much am I prepared to sacrifice now to live out my dreams in the future?
As Nelson Mandela once said, “There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.”Remember, it is your dream. Only you are responsible for nurturing your dream. Sure there are
going to be setbacks. If it were easy, everybody would do it. That is why we admire Olympic athletes who win gold medals. Their dedication and determination are exemplary to most of us. There are no worse words to be said about someone than “They had so much potential.” We are not looking for a quantum leap. We are looking for incremental growth. You have to be in the game to win. When are you going to take yourself out of the rut and start on the journey of your life?It is your time. The clock is ticking, and time is the most precious commodity on earth.