In each relationship we have, be it romantic, work, or social, there is one constant we all bring: Baggage. We all have our very own baggage. And here I hear you saying: I don’t have any baggage. Well. I have news for you: Denying the existence of your issues is probably why relationships seem to be problematic and frustrating. Raise few questions to your self, such as: why you get so stressed out at work? Why you take this frustration home with you and your family. The better te questions you ask ; the better the answers you get. Seems to me to be the rule!
Primarily, we learn how to be in successful relationships by experiencing them directly; by watching our parents manage conflict successfully and stay true to their loving union. Similarly, we do our best learning on how to become a good parent while being parented ourselves. Problems experienced in our early relationships are often expressed in our own behavior towards others (child abusers were often themselves abused). And vital though they are, relationship skills are seldom taught in school or other institutional settings. All of this adds up to the fact that many people end up making a mess of their relationships, in part because they never learned how to do them properly. we will touch on these topics in our upcoming blogs.
To communicate effectively, you need to be aware of and in control of your emotions. And that means learning how to manage stress (we will discuss this topic in our blogs). When you’re stressed, you’re more likely to misread other people, send confusing or off-putting nonverbal signals, and lapse into unhealthy knee-jerk patterns of behavior.
How many times have you felt stressed during a disagreement with your spouse, kids, boss, friends, or coworkers and then said or done something you later regretted? If you can quickly relieve stress and return to a calm state, you’ll not only avoid such regrets, but in many cases you’ll also help to calm the other person as well. It’s only when you’re in a calm, relaxed state that you’ll be able to know whether the situation requires a response, or whether the other person’s signals indicate it would be better to remain silent.
Our primary goal at Mind Peace Mastery is to create awareness of these issues so you can interact effectively with all the people you meet through your day.